'Getting over being beat when I was young'

Kevin Young (69.76.194.133) -

I am 43 years old.I have to see my "famliy" next week in another state.I have been having flashbacks of repeated beatings as a child.I just shared this with my wife of 7 years.I am looking for help.I feel shame.I ran away when I was 14.

Comment #1 Dr. Doug (200.91.169.133) -

Hi Kevin,

Welcome to my site. Like you, I was the victim of child abuse and left home at 16. Family reunions for members of families with a history of domestic violence often causes post'traumatic disorder. I suggest you consult a qualified mental health professional to learn how to cope with these feelings. Medication is not necessary, as a rule, for this disorder but learning more about how to conttrol your feeling and behavior will hellp greatlly.

šToxic parents" and "Healing the Shame that Binds" are two excellent books. John Bradford is an excellent author who writes a lot about the effects of shame. You may also want to read my articles on the subjuct, is you have not yet done so. Remember that you can control your emotions and determine by conscious choice, what to accept and believe and what to reject as merely the perspective of another person.

Good Luck

Dr. Doug

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