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Doug Agan (205.229.130.184) -

Dear Dr. Doug

My wife and I are getting a divorce. I know that she is rebelling agianst everone around her she seams to be to be living her life through our 16yr old daughter. My counclier says that she is going through a mid-life crises every one in her family argees with me and my family does to she says that she does not love me any more and it hurts really bad to here this. She was buy beer for underage teenagers and having underage partys with beer being brought in by teenagers.

She had a very tuff child hood her mother has been divorce 6 times and they all where alcholics

she started drinking about 2 yrs ago and I believe shes got a problem with it. We have been married for 21yrs I thought that our lives where good untell we move to a upper class development some of the people in the development drink every day and I know she was to. During the break up she has been very rebellous and not a very nice person. Her father past away when she was 6yrs old and never had a father figure in her life untell she had my father to have as a dad. She says that she needed me to change. she said that i was smoothering her. She's a very out going person and she can talk to anybody.

when she starts talking she comes of being flurty with other men and she is being just herself and men take as if she is flurting.

I have been going to church during this time and i understand what is going on. I pray every day for her and our kids and I fill better about myself some of the time but it still painfull for me to go through this. I know it is Gods will if she wakes up and understand what she is doing in her life but I am not to sure about how to handle this problem in my life. Is there hope she will come around. I know i need to go on with my life. But Iam still in love with her and I have told her this and that things would be the best that they have ever been if she would try and go to counciling with me and she did for about 3 times and that was it she said that it didnt help her. She never got to the root of her problem. Please help me understand what is going on in her head so that i can help her. The divorce is final 21 of november and it will be over I know it is to late to stop that but after the divorce there could be hopefor us but what can i do to help her. Please help any way you can.

Doug

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